*** What does it mean to live a Tantric Life? ***
I recently changed the tagline of my website from “Love is my mission” to “Living the Tantric Life”. As well “Living a Tantric Life” is the 5th Module of my Tantra Essentuals Online Course.
Why is this aspect so important for me and should be for you as well?
For me one of my main desires to make clear in my teachings is the understanding:
TANTRA IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX!
Tantra is the most amazing, intense, pleasure-filled and deep personal and spiritual development path I know.
Tantra is the most powerful ally on your way to living the life you desire! (Same with plant medicine but you cannot build a consistent practice based on that. Combining these two paths every now and then has unbelievably strong benefits – yes I advocate for plant medicine use here!)
So I went deep into myself and asked my highest knowing: WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO ME LIVE A TANTRIC LIFE?
What makes my life a Tantric life?
I came up with a few pointers that I want to share with you today.
Our life itself is the greatest teacher and all the Yoga classes, meditation circles, plant medicine journeys and every other deliberate practice is just a training mat for life.
Tantra for me is the most direct way to work with what life throws at you.
TANTRA IS FALLING IN LOVE WITH LIFE ITSELF
With every aspect of your humanity. With every facet of life. With every emotion and feeling. With every lesson and every other human being around you.
TANTRA IS THE YOGA OF LOVE
So here are the pointers
– Take time to BE PRESENT with what is!
Put a hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and FEEL! Just feel. Just be with it.
– PROCESS WHAT YOU FEEL through breath, sound and movement instead of pushing it away or drowning in it.
If you feel joy and goodness revel and luxuriate in it! If you feel anger, frustration, sadness or any other unpleasant feeling sound it out and give your body permission to move however it needs to move to process it!
Breath deep and full through the open mouth and sound on the exhale.
– SELF CARE, SELF CARE, SELF CARE
Whatever this means for YOU no one can tell you. It’s part of living a Tantric life to figure out what your system needs in different moments.
Sometimes self-care can look like a hot bath. Sometimes like Netflix and chill. Sometimes it means going out in nature and being alone. Sometimes it means hanging out with friends.
Whatever it may be. Give it to yourself plentiful as long as it does not harm you or anyone else.
– COMMUNICATE WITH YOURSELF and all your different body and mind pieces
Practice non-violent self communication. Our worst enemy lives in our head and our greatest friend lives in our heart. So we need to learn to switch to our heart and communicate lovingly and supportive with ourselves.
Ask yourself questions. Intelligent questions are solution oriented questions!
What do I need and how can I get it.
Your body carries consciousness in every single cell and in every part of your body. Speak to it with appreciation and ask it what it needs! Especially your heart, your breasts and your genitals!
– EMBRACE YOUR DESIRES AS SACRED
Learn to distinguish between true (heart) desires and false (ego) desires. Follow the true desires and use them as your compass in life!
– GIVE LOVE TO YOUR BODY
No, not only genital love but full body love that activates all your senses. And yes – as well genital love! But mind the point about communication and ask them what kind of touch they desire!
– SPEND TIME IN THE TRANSCENDENTAL REALM
This is your true home! This is where most of your soul still is. This is the realm where the nothingness and the everythingness are one and the same.
How to get there? Try my Tantric Enlightenment Meditation of Module 1 of my Tantra Essentials Course! Can’t get easier than that!
– DESIGN YOUR LIFE ACCORDING TO YOUR DESIRES
Not your desires according to your life.
– WORK LESS If you can and go minimalism!
Most people work way too much. This is not how we are supposed to live! If you focus on being happy you need to consume way less.
Minimalism does not mean to be happy with less but to value what you have more.
If you can’t work less find out your passtimes and timekillers and eliminate them! We all have been given 24 hours. You are responsible for what you do with them.
– PRACTICE GRATEFULNESS
I cannot emphasize this point enough!
The system is not able to perceive gratefulness and lack at the same time and to focus on gratefulness is the easiest way to generate more to be grateful for! You train your brain to simply see more of what you put your focus on. A gratefulness diary as part of your evening routine is a great step!
– SLOW DAFUCK DOWN!
And If you have no time to slow down: work less!
Slow down your breath, your walk, your thinking, your everything. It helps immensely with the first pointer of being present with what is.
– SWITCH FROM VICTIM TO CREATOR MODE
Good and bad news are the same here: No one else is responsible for your well being!
Bad because you cannot blame anyone anymore and good because you can actually influence your well being. This point goes together with self-care!
– CHOOSE YOUR MENTAL CONSUMPTION WISELY
Fill your consciousness with positive, uplifting and inspiring content instead of newsfeeds and breaking news which are always negative.
I really recommend Abraham Hicks and Aaron Doughty an hour before going to bed.
– CHOOSE YOUR PHYSICAL CONSUMPTION WISELY
How you nourish, water, train and rest your body is part of self care on the physical level and at least as important as emotional self care.
– PRACTICE EXPLICIT TANTRIC EXERCISES
Last but not least obviously. Once a week should be reserved for a deep Tantric practice or ritual with yourself and once a week with your partner If you have one and she or he is open to it.
If s/he is not you gotta lead by example and make them curious why your life suddenly goes so much smoother and lighter and why you are so much more happy!
If you want to have some amazing, life changing Tantric practices as guided audios
If you ever have been curious about what Tantra is all about you absolutely should not miss this opportunity!